what’s gunking up my head

November 3, 2012 | 15 Comments

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Some things I’ve been thinking about.

On the interwebs:

My social media network is full of intelligent, progressive, lovely folk who challenge me to think, live and love differently, with their own words and the words of others. If you follow me on Twitter or on my Facebook page, none of these will be new to you, but let me tell you what I think made them worth sharing.

Sluts on Halloween” is a video by Jenna Marbles that talks about the society-nurtured reflex for women to hate women. This video isn’t for the faint of heart. Jenna doesn’t give a shit if we agree with her and she certainly doesn’t mince words. She addresses the “so what” of dressing like a “slut” on Halloween. Listen for this line, “No one’s hatin’ on you for bein’ a toothbrush.” Best.

21 Things to Stop Saying Unless You Hate Fat People” was a fantastic read. If you’ve spent any time on my blog or five minutes with me, you know I’m a member of the Fat Acceptance Club. What that means to me is that all body shapes and sizes deserve love, respect, dignity, celebration, autonomy, and bud-the-fuck-out-ness. It means fat doesn’t equal unhealthy and skinny doesn’t equal healthy. It means I won’t laugh at your fat jokes. It means I work hard to love my body just the way it is and celebrate all it does for me.

I love all her points, but number 19 SPEAKS to me:

Suggesting that a fat person do something or not do something in order to look less fat or more flattering.

  • Example: “I don’t think that’s the right style dress for you. Here, this cut would be more flattering to your shape,” or “This shape of glasses will work best with your round face.”
  • Example: “Someone her size shouldn’t be wearing THAT!”
  • Example: All clothing products that are advertised as “slimming”.

Whether or not a fat person should wear striped clothes, have a certain haircut, go out in a bikini, etc is entirely up to the fat person in question. “Flattering” is a system of control, trying to wedge us all into tiny boxes. Fuck flattering!

Fuck flattering is my new motto. I love it. I wish I could hug Issa, the author of this post.

And for all of my friends who cringe at the word feminist, this one’s for you.  Anne explains, with her usual charm and style, why Feminism is still important, why we’re not done, and why Humanism doesn’t cut it.

We need our own space to talk about what’s happening to women today; we need our own conversation about issues that are unique to us. We need feminism.

On my bookshelf:

Oh god. My mind is so clogged up I haven’t made time to read. I have a pile of books by my bed and they remind me of how foggy I feel. I recently bought “Broken Magic” by Eric Sipple, a pal from the Yeah Write community (which, Jade, I can’t thank you enough for introducing me to). I’m about ten pages in and loving it. He’s an inspiring dude.

Emma and I are almost done the first book in the Harry Potter series. That’s been pretty cool to share with her. It’s as far as I got on my own, so it will be fun to dive into the second one together.

What are you reading and loving?

On my blog:

Here are some things I think you should read if you haven’t:


Please join my Truthfully Facebook page.

Joining up with Yeah Write for BlogHer’s NaBloPoMo. I use the term “joining up” loosely, as I think I’ve only ever been successful once out of my five NaBloPoMo attempts. No guilt. Just fun.

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  • Cecily

    Thanks for the link love – head gunk for everybody!

    • Shannon

      A pleasure, m’lady.

  • http://splatospheric.blogspot.com MizYank

    “Gunking” –I love it! With this and splatting, we may have the makings of an excellent layperson’s medical dictionary.

    • Shannon

      I think we should add it to wikipedia. Or the DSMV somewhere. It works well with many disorders.

  • http://fiftyshadesofpeach.com Peach

    Slow clap for Jenna Marbles. Love it! And reading!? I consider it a minor miracle I finally finished the Dragon Tattoo series. After 3 months. On the last book. Why!? Because of the Internet gunking up my head. :)

    • Shannon

      Gunk is everywhere! And it keeps me from doing things that will probably make me better and smarter, BUT I LOVE THE INTERNET.

  • http://livingoffscript.blogspot.com Bee

    I have made some really poor reading choices this past year — not necessarily bad books, just bad for me. Right now I’m reading Ralph Manheim’s translation of Grimms’ Tales For Young and Old.

    • Shannon

      Bad for you how, Bee? Too grimm? Heh.

  • http://www.mamanervosa.com Jen

    Love all of this, but especially the 21 things to stop saying.
    I’m reading and loving Reading Lolita in Tehran — I’m hoping to post about it after I teach it on Thursday night.
    I’m making the attempt at NoBloPoMo over at yeah write too — right now I’m optimistic, but it’s only the 4th. we’ll see :)

    • Shannon

      Hey Jen, I haven’t heard of that book. I shall look forward to your review. What do you teach?

      I’m feeling optimistic, too, but like you said—it’s early.

  • Cecily

    All I’ve been reading is bad lesbian young adult novels (bad young adult lesbian novels? Where does one place the adjective?). It’s about all I can handle these days between juggling letterpress games, yelling at my cat, and trying to stay upright.

  • http://bellejarblog.wordpress.com Annabelle

    First of all, thanks for the shout-out, buddy! You are the greatest.

    Second of all, you are the greatest! I love what you write all of the time, but I ESPECIALLY love the stuff you’ve been talking about lately! You have so many brilliant things to say, and I looooove hearing your opinions about STUFF. Keep it up!

    Third of all, I am reading the last Game Of Thrones book. The books are good, don’t get me wrong, but I feel like I’ve been reading them for half my stupid life. I just want it to be over!

    • Shannon

      This was really, really nice to read, Anne. Thanks.

      I get the wanting it to be over feeling. I’ve watched a couple of series like that. I need to finish, but IT’S PAINFUL.

      xo

  • http://www.happinesscubed.net Dawn Beronilla

    Holy frickin frack Jenna Marbles cracks me up!! I look forward to reading your other links as well! :-)

    • Shannon

      She really is so funny. Her potty mouth is my fave.