FYI: (if you’re a teenage girl being slut-shamed by Mrs. Hall)

September 5, 2013 | 24 Comments

selfie of Shannon Fisher

I broke the cardinal rule and read the comments. This is how I know your teachers and moms in favour of Mrs. Hall’s letter are making it part of family discussions and lessons on digital citizenship.

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5 things you don’t know about me

September 4, 2013 | 23 Comments

Finding five unknown things about an over-sharer is no easy task.

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solidarity really is for white women and i want to be part of changing that

August 30, 2013 | 10 Comments

I’m embarrassed to admit that I’d never considered my privilege as a white person until about two years ago. Sure, I was aware of racism, but I didn’t stop to connect it to me and the colour of my skin. I didn’t take stock of all the ways I was benefiting from being white:

“As a white person, I realized I had been taught about racism as something which puts others at a disadvantage, but had been taught not to see one of its corollary aspects, white privilege which puts me at an advantage.” —Peggy McIntosh

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the asshole dynamic: judge much?

July 23, 2013 | 9 Comments

People who don’t have time to volunteer. EYE ROLL.

People who buy their kids luxury cars. EYE ROLL.

People with purse dogs. EYE ROLL.

People who drive gas-guzzling Hummers. EYE ROLL.

People who are famous and name their newborn after a cardinal direction. EYE ROLL.

People who make us feel like shit. THROAT PUNCH.

We’re better than all those assholes, amirite?

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i feel judged because i judge

July 15, 2013 | 17 Comments

I used to think you were judgemental and I wasn’t.

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things to do in vancouver

June 15, 2013 | 15 Comments

Metro-Vancouver is an oasis of things to do. Google your heart out and you’ll find the typical touristy suggestions. And they’ll all be fantastic. For reals. But when I travel, I wanna know what the locals do. This gives me better insight into a place. So, here’s my short list of things this local loves—an insider’s look, if you will.

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when your mom leaves you on the side of the highway with a bleeding pig

May 30, 2013 | 21 Comments

I was shivering against a farmer’s barbed-wire fence, away from the highway traffic when an older couple pulled over.

The woman rolled down the passenger-side window and asked if I needed a ride with the same tone one might use to ask someone naked if she needed pants.

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grieving my loss of faith

May 29, 2013 | 39 Comments

I need space to be angry.

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my business partner is better than your business partner

May 18, 2013 | 9 Comments

Do you have a business partner?

Yeah, me too.

Mine’s better.

Here’s why.

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Why You Shouldn’t Chat While You Pee

May 10, 2013 | 56 Comments

My husband and I were freshly married when we spent an evening with friends and good food. We said our goodbyes and headed for the car. When Steve was sure we were alone, he began punctuating each step with a toot.

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no hiding. just love and celebrating.

May 9, 2013 | 29 Comments

Yesterday I wore a skirt and my black chucks. I felt cute and fresh and young.

In the evening, Emma and I took Sloane to the dog park. I asked her to take a picture of me. Emma is always up for a photo shoot, no matter what side of the camera she’s on. As she positioned herself to take the photo, people appeared from behind the trees at the curve of the trail. I pushed her camera-ed hand down and made her wait until they passed. As if it were a drug deal.

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hey dove, I cried, but that doesn’t mean you nailed it

April 22, 2013 | 38 Comments

I’m sort of tired of being told to lighten up. Even if I spill invisible pixie dust on my ratty old pants and proceed to lose my shit, please don’t tell me to lighten up.

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run your own fucking marathon: how to deal with jealousy

April 11, 2013 | 49 Comments

I’ve spent almost 38 years jealous of anything that breathes.

I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do. —Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

Eight years ago I trained for a half marathon with a runner who was faster than me. What was an easy pace for her, left me barely able to manage my end of the conversation during our long Sunday runs. But every Sunday she ran with me and every Sunday I ignored my program pace to keep up.

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attending, speaking, gettin’ published. no big deal, yo.

April 3, 2013 | 8 Comments

Terrifying and thrilling things are happening around here. Steve and I quit our jobs to start our own (separate, but complimentary) businesses.

No, you’re crazy!


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a less nerderrific computer history

April 2, 2013 | 2 Comments

Steve has a nerderrific computer history. His family bought their first computer when he was six years old in 1981. It was a TI994a and hooked up to a cassette player and the TV. Bonkers! I told him he should write about it. I’ll make him; I promise.

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i was groomed to love street harassment

March 20, 2013 | 6 Comments

I grew up being catcalled. I was groomed to believe it was a compliment I should enjoy. I looked for this form of validation on days I felt especially bad about myself. Embarrassing and true.

I’ve since learned about male privilege and body autonomy.

These days I refer to catcalling as street harassment.

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goodbye, jack. i love you.

March 16, 2013 | 14 Comments

Jack left us this morning.

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i trust you this much

March 14, 2013 | 26 Comments

This is my new favourite TEDTalk. My soul cheers when Amanda Palmer says, “When we really see each other, we want to help each other.”

My desire to be deeply vulnerable is tied to my instinct to trust. I sometimes embarrass Steve and other friends when I share funny stories they’d rather keep private.

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brené brown hugs

February 28, 2013 | 11 Comments

You guys, I’m going to meet Brené Brown.

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emma returns

February 25, 2013 | 4 Comments

If you haven’t seen the original Barbie Art video, you’re seriously missing out. Emma returns to the studio with some thoughts on Girls’ Day in Japan.

Yes, I had a youtube channel called Shimmer Shan. I thought I would to join the YT makeup crazies club. I didn’t last long. I’m ridiculous in the best ways.


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